Q) Hi Sir! I have done B.Tech and am working now. All my freinds have girlfriends although they are not very good to look at. I stay in Hyderabad, though I have a job I have no girl friends. Sometimes I go to the tankbund ,when I see couples there I feel bad. You only should solve my problem, I do not have brothers also, that's the reason why I am telling you.

Vishnu , E.Mail

LOVE DOCTOR: Go to Tankbund, bend over the railings and look into the water.

Do all this only when a girl is coming alone towards you.

The moment she reaches behind you turn around and ask her "How deep will the water be "Most probably she wiill look at you like she's looking at a mad man and move ahead.

Then go closer to her and ask her "10 feet........20 feet........30 feet....? How Much........? Guess How much deep will it be?

She will think you are a gascase and she'll start walking.

You also start walking along with her and tell her "What will you lose if you tell me: How Deep the water Is?"

Unable to bear your nuisance she'll say "Thirty" thinking you were asking about your age..

Then you reply "The depth of my heart is deeper than that "

I'll keep you like a Mermaid (Hussainsagar Kanya).

This is your Premsagar come lets jump into it. Saying this suddenly go and hold her feet tight.

What's all this tamasha!! What question are you asking me:"How to make a girl fall in love with you.!

To fall in love with you "Are you Hussain Sagar"?

Speaking Boss, Speaking.If you want to learn to love you should first learn to speak.

Then learn to stand by what you say.

Get out of these false prejudices that you are handsome and smart than others and that you are an Engineer.

Learn to chat and hook a girl.

Sagara Kanya Phatak........

See you on tank bund!

Q)Ram Garu.........I am from a very traditional family. I am working now. When I was in school I had a best friend .He was a very good guy. He loved me a lot and would propose to me every day. In my family lot of importance is given to caste and Prestige. Keeping this in mind I did not accept his proposal. Later I felt what's the harm in marrying him when he is in love with me.One match had come, so I informed my family about this. Hell broke lose for two days. Later when I spoke to him on phone he asked me to meet him, On seeing him almost like a mad person , I was filled with compassion, unable to see his sorrow I told him that I will go away with him. And at home I told my family that I will forget him. I feel I am betraying my family and also the person I love. What do I do?

On request of the writer name and place not disclosed.

LOVE DOCTOR: Don't love by feeling bad.And don't feel bad after falling in love.

Dont fall in love by hurting parents.

Don't hurt the person you love.

You will have to take a descision now. Since you are not taking a descision both sides are getting hurt.

Apart from that you are going through hell.

Even if you want to run away with him and get married, you being a sensitive good, I don't think can forget your parents hurt.

Every girl in her life goes through this phase "Where should I share my love:In my parents house or my husband's house."

The agony you are going through is not new.

However at present you are not in a state to take a descision.

So wait for sometime.

Show interest in your job.

You need sometime.

You need some space.

Everything will fall into place.

All the best.

Q)Ram Annayya..........I am away by 8 marks to stand first in Class. I have committed a mistake that cannot be forgiven. I cannot forget my neighbour lady 's love and freindship. One day at 1 o clock in night she brought food for me with out anyone's knowledge. In the eyes of the society it is a mistake. So we decided to go far away and live. Once I get a job she will divorce her husband. If I do not get a job we decided to go away to a any place. This is our plan. Since she is my neighbour we write letters to each other. Suddenly one fine day she has stopped talking to me. She closes the doors and curtains on seeing me. She has not told me the reason. I loved her more than my life and suddenly she has done this to me. Every second I just cannot tell how bad I feel. Please understand my hurt and give me a nice solution.

Satyanarayana,Place Undisclosed.

LOVE DOCTOR: Seeing the sunrise is equal to rebirth to a person who is about to die.

She fed you when you were hungry.

When she realised the mistake she closed the dooers.

Both are for your good only.

But you are still hungry.

And your door is still open.

Living wishing for something is understandable,but yours is a wish that cannot be shared even with your parents.

She realised her mistake and went back to her family.

She realised her duty and responsibility towards her husband, family, relatives and so went back to them.

Although she likes you if she has closed the door against you just try to understand the pain and agony she must have gone through.

Your love must be true.

But instead of wishing to have her in your life, you should wish that she is happy.

You did not write to me what went wrong with you.

However I am proud of you.

You are a nice person , dont trouble her.

You have done your Bed teach lessons to the society.

First of all stop self pity,and try to ptrotect her like a shadow without her knowledge.

 

 

Q) I am in my B Com Final year. I am deeply in love with a girl. I record her every moment in my Dairy. In leisure I go through it and fantasise about her. I think of her day and night. I sleep only for six hours in a day. Initially I loved her beauty, then her character and sincerity. Finally I decided that she will be my life partner. She got to know that I am in love with her. After ten days I told her that I love her so she told me that she does not love me and that if her father and grandfather get to know about this matter it will become an issue. My family and friends got to know about my love and my friends think that I am mad. I follow her everyday to college ,even then she does not understand my love for her. I'll write to you again, since I want to share my feelings with you.

R.P , Hanumakonda.

LOVE DOCTOR: She is in her Inter second year,so she is not even 17 years old.She is not even a major.

So,you are in final year BCom! Seeing your, dairy entry's, following her to college, sleeping for only six hours I feelthat your reaching final year must have taken real effort.

Love has to give happiness to the other. Loving to keep oneself happy is not love. It is selfishness.

Even if the person you love does not love you, and you still silently love and worship that person in your heart that is greatness.

People in love do not fear anyone. She has made an excuse that she is afraid of her father and grand father because she is not in love with you.

You are intelligent , a nice human being I do not want you to make a mistake.

You love her and you want her , you cannot live without her.

Get to know the difference between love and desire.

Everyone has desires, one person wants to have a beautiful wife, the other a beautiful home someone else a beautiful car or a sucessful business.

I wish you get a beautiful wife and that she should love you wholeheartedly.

But asking for this girl only is a mistake.Try to love and respect her.

You say that you'll write again, kindly give chance to others also.

 

 

 

Q) I am doing my Inter Second year. When I was in the tenth standard there was a boy who told me that he was in love with me. I got attracted to him and had kissed him once. Then I got to know that he is roaming around with number of other girls and so kept away from him. Even my family knew about this matter. Now I feel guilty of kissing him. Should I tell the person I will be marrying about this kiss. I do not want to hide the truth. They say "Time Heals". However I am unable to forget this incident. My future is dependent on the answer you give.

Pravesika , Ananthapuram.

LOVE DOCTOR: There are so many people whom we come across everyday in our life.

We shake hands with some of them. Only because we shook hands with them "Are we going to remember each one of them?".

Try to differentiate and understand the difference between physical contact and emotional contact.

It is your goodness that you want to tell your going to be husband about the kiss that you shared with the attractive guy.

Its "just being foolish" if you want to do something like that.

Something done in ignorance can be forgiven, I'm sure your parents also will understand and forgive you.

Now you should forgive yourself and forget this incident.

Always try to forget all the bad experiences in life and learn to remember good things that you have done.

Now start doing good so that you will be in a position to tell all the good deeds to your going to be husband.

In the same manner in which you have taken out the Dingiri from your life erase that kiss incident from your mind.

Q) Ram Annayya! I am twentyone years old. I work in a Hospital. There is a girl who works in this Hospital. I fell in love with her the first time I saw her. I liked her goodness and innocence. I told her that I am in love with her. I sent her about 500 to 600 SMS.But she never replied nor has she given me a warning not to do so. However, she told her friends that she is in love with another boy. Why is she behaving in this manner? Now what should I do? How do I get out of this situatuion.

G.Veeranna,Suryapet.

LOVE DOCTOR: You said that you are working in a Hospital.You should have been prescribing medicines to patients, instead of that : What is this Dr Garu you are giving SMS to girls working in the Hospital.

By this time seeing your 600 SMS she must have started hating you.

Even after she has sent a message indirectly through her freinds that she is in love with some one else , that itself is SMS to you that you should look for someone else.

It is her good fortune that you are loving her wholeheartedly. She might not get a lover like you .

But only because you are in love with her , you should not become a pain to her and start troubling her.

Thank God you do not know my Mobile number , Otherwise you would have blasted my Inbox with your SMS.

These days SMS are very cheap, so do not make your love very cheap.

All the Best.

Q) Ram Annayya! Namaste. I completed my Intermediate. From my ninth standard I fell in love with a girl. I joined the same college as her to be with her. My weight is slightly on the heavier side. She speaks to all the other boys except me. She is good in studies and so she is very arrogant.To teach her a lesson I worked hard and scored 80 % marks in my second year of Intermediate. Then she started speading rumours that I cheated in the exams and got these marks. I feel like Killing myself. You alone should slove this problem of your brother.

Sukumar, Nellore.

LOVE DOCTOR: Brother ...Don't worry because you are fat, Be happy that you are in love.

You've done a good thing by loving this supergirl.

Usually people get zeroes after the falling in love.

But you've scored 80% marks.

This world needs more and more lovers of your nature.

Love relates to positive thinking.

All these days , the letters that I've been getting you are the only one who has taken love positively.

Without seeing Dronacharya, Ekalavya became an expert Archer. Ekalavya never went to Dronacharya. Dronacharya himself came to Ekalavya.

Your love has such great inspiration.

Definitely one day the super girl herself will come to you.

By then you will have studied life. And you will be in a position to ignore her.

You will become great.You will always be my hero.

Q) Ram Annayya! Namaste. I completed my Intermediate. I am in love with one boy, but I havent expressed my love to him. Before I could tell him about my love for him, my family has started looking for a match for my marriage. I wanted to kill myself. My friends got to know about this and asked me if I were mad. First of all they asked me to tell him about my love. When I spoke to him on the phone he asked me to meet him. Now there is a problem . I am not good looking and attractive. But my friends tell me that it is not necessary that one has to be beautiful only, A person needs to have good heart, understanding nature and good character. I am scared whether he will say yes or no? Please tell me what to do?

Unknown, Kakinada.

LOVE DOCTOR: Two people fall in love to live together.Isn't it.

To live together you need two hearts that live together.

You have still not met him,You do not even know him.

First of all you should know him.Only after you speak to him and know his feelings you might start liking him.

After speaking to him you might like him,you might not like him.

Beauty is skin deep.

Beauty has no depth.

Beauty doesn't know the depth of love and adoration.

If both of you share your feelings he might understand your inner beauty.

In case he does not love you,we get to understand that he has not understood your heart.

Then living with such a person becomes an impossibility.

God creates some beautiful,and some not so beautiful people.

We should not start comparing ourselves to someone and start feeling inferior.

We must use our lives that God has given to help others.

Reading your letter I could understand your thoughts and what a beautiful heart you have.

You are my beautiful Bangaram.

Q) Ram Garu, If I have to be a friend to you, to girls and boys, what characters should I have? No girl has ever talked to me directly. Why?

G.Venkatesh,Chandupatla.

LOVE DOCTOR: A boy to whom girls are not attracted to, even boys will not look at him.

Once when I was in college, suddenly one classmate of mine sitting beside me started telling:

Ramanna! In this world there are no friends.Beleiving in friends is a waste. When you are in need there will be no one beside you.

Everyone runs away when you are going through a difficult situation. Freindship is itself waste.

Saying all this he drank my cup of tea.

Then I asked him: Are you a friened to someone? Were you there when some friend of yours was in trouble.

Then he left the cup and started telling all this to another person sitting beside him.

First learn to be a friend then you will win friends.

Venkatesh garu to attract freinds to you yourself should be a good friend.

In the beginning you said that you want to make friends, then you said girlfriends.

About making girlfiends ask some one else not me.

Your good friend Ramanna.

Q) I am doing my MCA final Year. In my Degree Final year one boy told me "I love you."I said no to him. He is my Inter classmate. He tells me that he has been loving me since I was in second year. He follows me everyday itseems. He keeps on investigating me . If I speak to boys he phones me and asks me why I was talking to that boy. I scolded him number of times over the phone even then there is no change in his behaviour. He failed in Degree final year, his friends say that's because of me. Should I marry the person I love or the person who is in love with me?

Unknown.

LOVE DOCTOR: If you marry the person who loves you, definitely he will love you, but early in the morning as you wake up you'll have to see that detective fellow and bear with him.

Lets not get confused.

Because he followed so I'll marry him, because he is sincere I will love him, because he cried I'll marry him, lets stay away from such false notions.

These days if boys want to get married there is a scarcity of girls, I've seen im my native place about 1000 of them who are unable to get a suitable girl to get married.

If you want to Love , love does not happen.

But when love happens you fall in love.

That's not only in love marriage but also in arranged marriage.

Concentrate on Education and career.

When God decides Love will happen.

That day marry the person you love.

God Bless You.

 

 

 

Q) Sir....I've completed my B Tech. A girl proposed to me in my student days. I accepted, thereafter she told me that She is not interested in me. She started seeing another person. After some time she seperated from him. Within a period of four years of Engineering she behaved in this manner with three of them. After completing her Engineering she got married to another person. I had the shock of my life, since I give great importance to relationships. I am unable to concentrate on my studies with all these thoughts. I want to know if there are girls in this world who give importance to Culture, inter-personal relationships and Girls who are againsts Pre-Marital sex. If I have to keep away from those indulging in the above, Do tell me how do I recognise them?

Great Rajesh,EMail.

LOVE DOCTOR: On opening your mail I can find something burning and smoke eminating .

You accuse her of going around with three of them!

It could be plain Freindship! She could be moving around freely with them! Is it right to come to conclusions that her character is not good.

Now only because she is happily married your scene is very bad. You are unable to forget her, secondly the thought that she belongs to someone else is eating you up.

Because she is unreachable like grapes so you say that her characher is sour.

Look Boss whether heated, burnt or burnt to ashes it is your face and your heart.

Who has given you the right to say that there is scarcity of girls who are of good character in this society!

Do you need a thermometer to measuere the character of girls?

Guru, Remember there are girls in our home too.

Imagine some one asking you to prove the sanctity and chastity of a girl related to you or someone belonging to your own family?

That girl has got married and she is leading a dignified life. Try to respect her.

Be in a position to greet her when you come across her.

Ask her "Is everything okay with you" I'm Rajesh who was an ardent lover and admirer of yours once upon a time.

Do let me know if I can be of help to you. I'll be glad to help you. Then there'll be a smile on your face and you will be a happy person. The girl you loved will also respect you.

And then my opinion about you will be "You are great".

Q) I am in love with a boy for the past two years. Their family and my family are aware about our affair. Suddenly there is a problem. One girl phoned me started torturing me. She says that the boy I am in love with is her lover and that I've come in between and am the cause for their seperation. She says if I do not get out of her way she will come and create nuisance in my house. Also she says her father is a secret advisor in the Police Commissioners office and that she will file a case against me. On getting to know all this I confronted my boyfriend, but he was not coming out with the truth. So I threatened him that I will kill myself if he did not tell me the truth. Then he confessed to having loved her too, but he told me that he loves me more than her. My heart is broken. I love him a lot. But have realised that I have been cheated.I started concentrating on my studies. Now he started troubling me. He says that he will die if I am not there, otherwise he says he will kill me. He is behaving like a mad man. My life has become only crying all the time. Tell me what to do?

LOVE DOCTOR: I'm giving you one day's time.

One whole day sit in a room and cry as much as you want.

If that's not enough continue it throughout the night.

With sunrise you will definitely get some releif.

You will open your eyes.Then you will realise how fortunate you are !

Thern make a phone call to the Police Uncle's daughter Juliet. Reveal to the her who said she would kill or get you killed ,about her romantic hero's romeo deeds with you. Then reintroduce them to each other.

After that you please take your books and go back to colleege.

They'll look after themselves.

Now Shall we study.OK..........Bye.

 

 

Q) I've been in love with a boy for over a year. He works with a software company. Sometime ago he banged his head against a wall and threatened me saying that he would kill himself if I did not marry him. So we got married in a temple and photographs of our marriage ceremony were taken. However either of us had not signed on any papers. After that we left to our respective homes. Fifteen days after our marriage our families got to know. My family has advised me to seperate from him since my elder and younger sister are unmarried and my marriage to him might create problems to them. On getting to know about this he started spreading rumours about my character to my relatives and freinds. I feel I have cheated my family. I am doing my final year degree. I was a bright and active student all through my education. After this incident I 've become very dull. Sir please give me a nice advise so that I come out of all this.

Sushma ,E-Mail.

LOVE DOCTOR: Instead of marrying a person who bangs his head against a wall for not getting married to you, you should have tied him up to four walls.

Whatever has happened has happened and cannot be changed. Don't get worried about it. You are very fortunate. I wish every sister of mine had a family like that of yours.

Your parents are so protective about you. I feel so proud of your family.

No parent in this world would have tolerated and excused a child for committing a mistake that you have.

However the love your parents are showering on you is outstanding. Dont discourage your family that has given you immense strength.

"TIME IS THE BEST MEDICINE".

So from today onwards be your original self.Concentrate on your studies.Get into a good job. And I tell you,in no time all these fears you have today will vanish.

Whatever you have done is an ignorant deed. So don't keep thinking of what happened and upset yourself.

Be an inspiration to your family members and to me also in the days to come.

Q) Ram Garu, I'm doing my Engineering third year. From my Intermediate days I am in love with a girl. She is my Maradalu. I love her very much. I proposed and she agreed to marry me. However from the first year of B-Tech one girl says she is in love with me. She proposed to me ,but I refused to marry her. She is persistent even now she says "I love you" She is also very good to look at. I am unable to decide what to do? Kindly advise me What I should do?

S.Pandu ,Sattupalli.

LOVE DOCTOR: Do you plan to make the girl who has been loving you since Intermediate days a loner.You should be thoroughly bashed up without an interval break.

Only then you might get to understand what is LOVE.

I'm surprised to know that you are unaware about the difference between LOVE and ATTRACTION.

Attraction sees beauty.

But love sees affection.You say that you feel you are in love with both of them.

Infact you are in love with yourself.That's the reason I find selfishness is dominating love in your letter.

If both these girls get to know your thoughts they will definitely bash you up thoroughly.

The thought that both these girls are in love with you makes you feel inflated like a ballon, beware you might burst.

Q) My parents love me a lot. In another portion of our house we had tenents whose son was studying with me from the X th Standard. I would work very hard since I wanted to pursue law as a career. One day when I was all alone at home he came and tried to molest me. I slapped him. After this incident he spread rumours about me in the college and at home too. With a result my family too beat me up and stopped me from going to college. So I drank rat poison but death too never came to me. He joined the Army, now he says that he's in love with another girl and he would like to get married to her. I would like to inflict harm to this person who has ruined my career and life. I do not want to see him happy. How?

S.Deepika, Amalapuram.

LOVE DOCTOR: If a leaf goes and falls over the thorn or if a thorn falls on a leaf the thorn will have to break.That's the day we would all like to see.

A brave person like you should not consume rat poison.

You are the Jhansi Lakshmi Bai and Rudramma Devi of today, You should follow and bash up such rats and indecent fellows.

I appreciate your courage. Don't try to take revenge and try to settle scores with such indecent people.

If possible get married to the person your parents are on a look out for. Orelse concentrate on your studies and become independent and become independent.

By dying you will not acheive anything neither will your family be happy.Your absence will be a painful memory to them throughout their life.

Be strong,love yourself. Then the whole world will respect love and accept you.All the best.

 

 

Q) I am an Engineer, married and having a decent Job. Initially my boss would show keen interest in me, gradually I too reciprocated, but we always maintained our limits, therefore the colleagues in Office had always respected and regarded us highly. Lately one of his old colleagues joined back our Office. Thereafter he started neglecting me and showering all his attention to her.What right has he got to hurt me psychologically? I am in a dilema , I cannot even move to an alternate employment. I am unable to understand why I am taking him so seriously? Why am I unable to take him lightly? I am unable to understand what should I do now? Please console me.

LOVE DOCTOR: If a small line has to be extended further without wiping out the earlier line , then a bigger line has to be drawn beside it

Memories too are like that , its very difficult to wipe them out.

Impossible is the word to be used here , so without wiping out the old memories one has to add another memory so that they can overshadow the earlier one.

Since there is a vaccum in your life you have developed an intimate relationship of this kind with your boss. Now a time has come when you have to cross over.

The way you are longing for him is not at all good for your life. Apart from this he has got to know the loopholes and your weakness. That is the reason he is troubling you even more.

Its best for you to now deeply meditate, see through past incidents that have taken place in your life and draw strength from them. And ultimately this will be your bigger line.

As long as you do not do this your life will be trapped around him and your thoughts will be rotating around him.

Try to forget about him completely, forget that a person like that ever existed in your life.

Now open your eyes. Really, open your eyes wide and see through the world with a new vision.

Q) I am 19 years old. I am in love with a girl . She is my maternal aunts daughter aged 15 years. I wanted to tell her " I love you". However, I refrained from doing so thinking that I would be disturbing her studies. Later on , one day I said "I love you". She told me that she does not love me. I am deeply in love with her. My life without her is as good as being lifeless. I can understand from the way she speaks to me that she likes me. Kindly advise.

Pradeep ,Machlipatnam.

LOVE DOCTOR: Some children are called child prodigies. At the age of five they complete their tenth class and at the age of ten they complete their PHd.

You too are of the same category. A person who wants to fall in love at the age of 12 must take bachelorhood at the age of seventeen.

What is all this hue and cry about?

Happily take bachelorhood or start concentrating on your studies.

Your aunts daughter might love you one day when she sees you as an efficient person .

Q) I am doing my MCA. I got married when I was doing my Degree first year. My husband started suspecting me from the fourth day after our marriage. With in 10 days of marriage we started having problems and the situation reached a stage where we had to go in for a divorce. There is a boy who is doing his MCA. He stays across my house. He likes me very much. He cannot live without seeing me even a single day. He got to know all about my past life. He went to inform his parents about us, and when he came back he told me that his parents have arranged his marriage with his neice.He says as long as he is doing his MCA that both of us can enjoy and after these three years both of us can get married to different people and live seperate lives. I had a miserable life from my childhood, so I feel strongly that atleast these three years I must enjoy life with him. Please advise so that my life comes back to the track.

Shweta, Guddlapalleru.

LOVE DOCTOR:

You are wrong. I am not telling this out of anger. Its out of pity. You say that you have gone through a miserable life in your childhood and so expecting a happy life is just. However it is not three years that this happiness is going to last.

The peson who has told you that he is in love with you will leave you in three days , he will comment on your character. He will desert you within three days pointing out at your character.

The person who says he is getting married to his neice is not in love with you. He is only attracted to you.

So at that stage even if you decide to oppose him , the society will not support you since you are a divorcee.

A man takes to habits when he feels low and can get over it, but for a woman she is readily branded by the society.The scars remain.

You are looking up to him for love, affection and freindship but he only seeks the desires of flesh from you. Its only your body that attracts him.

Kindly listen to me and concentrate on your studies. Get into a good job. Search for all yor happiness in your job.

In case of women if a woman follows or goes after somethifg she will not acheive happiness

Once your life is okay you will find happiness.

Q) Sir I am in love with a girl. I find that she too is in love with me. I went to met her and tell her that I am in love with her. Suddenly all parts of my body started shivering. It happened thrice. I do not know how to convey my love to her. I am unable to express my love to her, my studies are also getting affected. I can see hell between both these two worlds. Kindly advise me what to do?

B.Narsimha ,Vanaparthi

LOVE DOCTOR: In earlier days my Aunt used to grind dal in a the stone grinder. In between she would taste the dal while grinding. Few years later my uncle gave her a grinder to grind the dal.

Even after she started using the electric grinder she started following the same practice of putting her finger into it and trying to taste the dal.

The next moment she found her finger missing.

Similarly when you try to tell "I love you" if you shiver like a vibrator then any part of your body might go missing.

To express your love and continue it you need to be bold. Before you express your love to her go to her and show your tongue , other wise she might mistake you to be a dumb man.

All the best.

 

 

Q) Sir, I am 19 years old and am doing my B Pharmacy. All along I've been studying in boys School, its only after I got in to Pharmacy that I'm studying in a Co-education School. I am in love with a classmate of mine . She tells me that there are 15 boys who have proposed to her , but she has not fallen in love with anyone of them. I know that I am not superior to all those 15, But I am deeply in love with her and would love to get married to her only . Ram Garu, Kindly advise me what to do?

Sanjay,Guntur.

LOVE DOCTOR: Number 19 is not a very good number.Where does the need for love arise at this age?

The girl you love has lied to you , since you are unable to recognise, it you have become the sixteenth one.

Concentrate on your studies ,Complete your Pharmacy and then go back to her and ask her about the latest score.

"What's the score now?"

Q) I'm in love with a rich boy. Initially he proposed to me. He said that he would leave everyone for mysake. I informed my family about this matter. Since we belong to the same caste my family willingly agreed to this proposal. We both became close to each other. His family got to know about us . His family asked him to stay away from me to see them alive. So he phoned me and asked me to forget him, he said, that he will not phone me thereafter. I met his family and pleaded, However, they told me that he is engaged to another girl . Ram Garu, Have they cheated me? How do I teach them a lesson? What do I do now? Kindly Advise?

T.Sandhya ,Vijayawada.

LOVE DOCTOR: 100% He has cheated you.He played with your life and emotions,he has exploited you.

He wants to get rid of you now. He is playing games even now because you are a girl. I pity your parents whose honour is at stake due to this foolish deed of yours.

He is like a thorn, if you throw it away then too it will prick someone else.

"Life with a timid and oppurtunist man is a living hell."

Consult elders of the family and act wisely decide what needs to be done now.

Q) I am preparing for my MSc examinations. I am facing lot of difficulties due to my freinds. My childhood freind tells me that he is in love with me. He says, After we both get married to differnt people even then we will continue our relationship, and at present till we get married he says , let's enjoy. Should I be freinds or cut off this relationship with him?

Secondly, When I was in High School my Sister's Classmate proposed to me, to which I had agreed. In Intermediate also we promised to get married. His family thinks that I am going to be their daughter-in-law. Now I am no more interested in getting married to him. Does it mean that I have cheated him?

Srujana,Tadepalligudam.

LOVE DOCTOR: He is a Fraud, Enjoy till we get married !

He's cheating you , I am unable to understand why you cannot recognise that he is cheating you.

I strongly feel thissituation is a result of your behaviour.In the first place you should have slapped him for doing this to you, I don't understant why you are still tolerating him.

Are you a "Use and Throw" tissue paper. What's wrong with you ?

Secondly , this is not the right time for you to consider thinking of marriage.

Stay clear from such commitments at this stage of life.This is the time to concentrate on your studies.

Work hard and pursue your Master's Degree. Do not let other people use you, act intelligently.

"Giving an oppurtunity to be cheated is a bigger mistake than being cheated".

Never give others an oppurtunity to cheat you.

Maintain your self respect at all times.

Decide firmly that you will give all your time and energy to studies only , you' ll do well in life.

Q) I am in Degree Second Year. I am in love with a girl , she also likes me. Her parents also have agreed. However, my parents are dead against this relationship.They say that her family does not have a good reputation.They say if I would have loved a girl from backward community, still they would have agreed to an alliance but not this girl whose family background is not good. Kindly advise me what do I do now?

Kumar, Adoni

LOVE DOCTOR: Love is between two individuals, where as Marriage is between two families.That is the reason why your parents perhaps are not in agreement with your desires.

Moreover you said that you are doing your Degree.This is the time for you to study and not think of marriage.

I do not know how your parents have encouraged you to ask such things.

Your parents are to be blamed to have encouraged you to talk about this subject at this stage of life.

You can fall in love without reason but, for marraige you are required to have a means of living

Q) Ram annayya I have done my MA. A married man fell in love with me. Initially he was like a friend to me , he would share his problems and difficulties with me. He told me that he had an early marriage, that his wife would suspect him so he was staying away from her. Now recently he told me that she has joined him back with the involvement of elders in the family. He tells me that even now he has problems with her. Lately we became close to each other. He told me that he would do whatever I want and that he will be with me always. Suddenly one day he told me that he is afraid of his wife and that destiny will decide what has to happen with us , but that he wants me.What should I do?

LOVE DOCTOR: My dear! Why did you get cheated ?

Whatever happend has happened. Don't curse yourself for what has happened. All of us committ mistakes in life. Committing mistake is not wrong, not learning from our mistakes is wrong.

Impure Gold has to be melted to be purified. This is your Agnipariksha .

He has cheated you with sweet and poisonous assurances.

Retaliating is almost impossible in the present situation.

If possible underline my Answer to your question and send it to his wife.She might be able to do justice to you.